Couples Therapy and Coaching
Moving Toward What’s Real
So many couples find themselves caught in patterns—performing “good,” holding it all together on the surface, or fighting beneath it. Implicit assumptions, unresolved hurt, or endless conflict quietly suffocate connection and erode intimacy. What’s missing is the simple, difficult, and profoundly transformative turn toward what’s real.
Couples therapy and coaching invite you into an ongoing practice of authenticity:
- Learning to listen to yourself with precision, so you can speak from the truth of your own experience.
- Learning to attune to your partner, not through assumption or performance, but through genuine presence.
- Opening together into a relational field where both autonomy and intimacy can thrive.
Why Couples Seek Therapy or Coaching
Most couples seek support for a few key reasons:
- Proactive support and foundation-building. You want to strengthen your relationship ecosystem, ensure healthy patterns are in place, and create a resilient, loving foundation—whether before marriage (premarital counseling) or simply to deepen connection.
- Hidden or subtle pain. The relationship may appear good on the surface, but it feels flat, dull, or performative. Intimacy feels limited, and old patterns subtly shape interactions, keeping connection from feeling fully alive.
- Obvious or overt pain. Past trauma, attachment wounds, repeated cycles of conflict, miscommunication, or disconnection are interfering with closeness. Emotional reactivity, unresolved grief, sexual or intimacy struggles, or repeated relational patterns keep the partnership from flourishing.
In all cases, the work is about returning to what is most real in both partners—so you can experience connection, intimacy, and freedom fully, supported by somatic couples therapy and trauma-informed approaches.
How Sessions Work
Couples sessions follow a gentle, intentional arc designed to help both partners access what is most real—within themselves and between each other:
Deepening into Contact
We begin by slowing down, helping each partner notice what is most alive in them—sensations, emotions, longings, or concerns. This grounding creates space for presence and safety, so both voices can be heard.
Getting to the Heart of It
From this awareness, we move into the core of what is emerging between you. Patterns of conflict, silence, or disconnection often reveal deeper needs or unspoken truths. Together, we uncover these layers with curiosity and care.
Resolution & Integration
As underlying dynamics are met directly, their grip begins to loosen. Partners discover new ways of relating—where each can be more fully themselves while staying connected.
Living Agreements
Sessions conclude with concrete, embodied practices or relational agreements. These tools support safety, intimacy, and aliveness at home—so that change is not only felt in the session, but carried into daily life.
From Assumptions to Agreements
Many relationships operate on implicit assumptions, unspoken rules, or repeating patterns of hurt and conflict.Over time, these unspoken dynamics can quietly suffocate connection.
Often, the hidden bargain sounds like “I’ll suppress this part of me if you suppress this part of you.” or “I’ll take care of this part of you if you take care of this part of me.” These silent trades may keep the peace on the surface, but they erode authenticity, intimacy and trust underneath.
In couples work, we turn toward explicit agreements—ones that provide enough structure to create safety, and enough spaciousness to let intimacy and aliveness thrive.
- Both partners discovering the freedom to be fully themselves—held in a container of clarity, trust, and mutually agreed-upon boundaries.
- Both partners expanding their capacity to receive the other—supported by agreements that feel clear and mutual.
- A relationship that feels alive—not built on performance, but on presence, with enough structure to create safety and enough openness for play, growth, and intimacy.
This shift opens a field of mutuality and aliveness where both partners can breathe, connect more fully, and explore their relational and human potential.
The Invitation
Whether you’re seeking support through conflict, longing for deeper intimacy, preparing for marriage (premarital counseling), or simply tired of “doing everything right” and still feeling unsatisfied, somatic couples therapy, relationship healing, and attachment-focused therapy offer a path into what is most alive, most real, and most sustaining between you.
This invitation extends to those preparing a foundation, deepening a long-term bond, partners navigating non-traditional or polyamorous structures, and couples choosing to uncouple with care.